The bible is very clear on how we should converse with each other. Filthy communication must be put out of our life.
Col 3:8 But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth.
Speaking with other church members is usually not a problem, as the conversation does not usually deteriorate to filth, but there can be a big problem with unconverted friends or family members, or even new acquaintances. Conversation by worldly people can quite often [not always] be about perverted sex, filthy jokes or other subjects. This is where the true servant of God will stand up to be counted. If we refuse to listen to filthy communications, we will be set apart from the group; we will be called self righteous, and possibly be reminded of a time when we were happy to join in with lewd conduct. This is what conversion is about. God requires us not to join in with lewd conduct. We can say we used to live that way, but we donít now.
1Pe 4:1 Therefore, since Christ suffered for us in the flesh, arm yourselves also with the same mind, for he who has suffered in the flesh has ceased from sin,
1Pe 4:2 that he no longer should live the rest of his time in the flesh for the lusts of men, but for the will of God.
1Pe 4:3 For we have spent enough of our past lifetime in doing the will of the Gentiles when we walked in lewdness, lusts, drunkenness, revelries, drinking parties, and abominable idolatries.
1Pe 4:4 In regard to these, they think it strange that you do not run with them in the same flood of dissipation, speaking evil of you.
1Pe 4:5 They will give an account to Him who is ready to judge the living and the dead.
If we choose to live Godís way: we will lose our old friends; but we will find new friends. We glorify God if we suffer as a Christian. Godís people are being judged, it is God we must please; not our unconverted acquaintances or family.
1Pe 4:15 But let none of you suffer as a murderer, a thief, an evildoer, or as a busybody in other people's matters.
1Pe 4:16 Yet if anyone suffers as a Christian, let him not be ashamed, but let him glorify God in this matter.
1Pe 4:17 For the time has come for judgment to begin at the house of God; and if it begins with us first, what will be the end of those who do not obey the gospel of God?
Luk 6:22 Blessed are you when men hate you, And when they exclude you, And revile you, and cast out your name as evil, For the Son of Man's sake.
God and Godís way of life must come before family, and it must appear in our conversation. This is regardless of what they may think or do.
Luk 14:26 "If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he cannot be My disciple.
It is not us they will hate; it is the way of God.
Joh 3:19 And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil.
Joh 3:20 For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed.
God will give us back anything we may lose for the sake of Christ; also eternal life.
Mar 10:29 So Jesus answered and said, "Assuredly, I say to you, there is no one who has left house or brothers or sisters or father or mother or wife or children or lands, for My sake and the gospel's,
Mar 10:30 who shall not receive a hundredfold now in this timeóhouses and brothers and sisters and mothers and children and lands, with persecutionsóand in the age to come, eternal life.
promise far outweighs the loss of family or friends.